Finding a safe place to call home
Tracy* is in her 30s and is married with two children. She qualified as a nurse seven years ago and absolutely loves her job.
“I can’t imagine doing anything else. I’ve always been a very giving person and I love meeting new people and giving the best care possible to all my patients.”
Tracy worked hard throughout her training, juggling childcare and her assignments which at times was really tough but the sense of achievement she got from qualifying as a nurse was immense. She was delighted to be such a positive role model for her children.
Her husband had always been a very controlling person in their relationship with a firm hand on the finances but now Tracy’s new nursing career was able to provide her with more independence, financially and emotionally.
The result was that Tracy’s relationship with her husband became strained with his behaviour getting increasingly erratic and emotionally and verbally abusive. Her husband’s controlling and abusive behaviour started to have an effect on the children and Tracy felt she had no option but to leave the family home with the children.
“It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made, but I was determined to give the children a peaceful and stable home. But I had no savings and my husband stopped me having access to our joint bank account. I had no idea how I could afford to move out.”
Tracy contacted her union and they told her about a number of nursing charities that could possibly help, Cavell Nurses’ Trust being one of them. With a grant from the Queen’s Nursing Institute, Tracy was able to put a deposit down on a new home for her and the children and Cavell Nurses’ Trust was able to provide a total of £1050 for Tracy to put towards new household items and the increased cost of getting the children to school from the new home.
As hard as it was to ask for help, Tracy says the whole process of applying to Cavell Nurses’ Trust was handled very sensitively and she felt supported all the way.
“The help I got enabled me to set up a new, safe home for the children and although it’s been financially very difficult, we are all much happier and settled.”
“Just knowing there is someone there who is willing to help and listen is hugely reassuring and the help I’ve had has made me so proud to be part of the nursing community.”